Single sisters, where ya at?!
Let’s be real: sometimes it kind of sucks. Do you ever feel left behind? Inadequate? Like you’re behind on life? Like you must be doing things wrong? Because if you do…then I feel ya, girl.
It’s so easy to get impatient. And it’s so easy to start to focus on where we want to be rather than where we are right now.
Who can blame us? I mean, we have basically been focused on the idea of love for our whole lives. When we’re little, we are told stories of princesses who find their princes and we see movies where the girl always gets the perfect guy. Then as we get older, our friends actually start to find serious relationships and get married…and we’re just here. And then we get all in our heads and we forget that God is God, and our season of singleness that He has carefully placed us in turns in to us just sitting and waiting on what we want to happen.
We place our hope in our ideas and plans, rather than the in One whose plans are infallible.
Let’s talk about this idea of waiting. We wait in lines at the Starbucks drive-thru, we wait at the DMV, we wait at the doctors office. I could probably name off 100 things we wait for all the time. But what do all these “waiting” situations have in common? In the “waiting” period of all these situations, we just sit until it’s our turn–no work involved, no growth involved. It’s a passive kind of waiting. Waiting in these situations is annoying, it’s a chore, t’s draining. It’s something you have to just sit and endure.
But what does the Bible say about waiting? It says we should wait on the Lord!
But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. –Isaiah 40:31
I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I hope; my soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen for the morning, more than watchmen for the morning. –Psalms 130:5-6
So you, by the help of your God, return, hold fast to love and justice, and wait continually for your God. –Hosea 12:6
In Isaiah 40:31, we see that the kind of waiting the Bible calls us to do is definitely not the same kind of waiting we do at the DMV. Waiting on the Lord isn’t draining–it actually builds us up! It makes us strong. It grows us. And not only that, but waiting on the Lord means waiting eagerly (Psalms 130:5-6). A watchman’s job is to watch for the sun to rise, and they are fully devoted to watching for the sun to come up over the hills. The Bible says that waiting on the Lord means that our soul should search for him MORE than the watchmen search for the morning. I mean, wow, right? And as we wait eagerly for the Lord, we should also pursue Him. I looooove how it says “hold fast” in Hosea 12:6. To me, this means to cling to the Word of God, love others well, don’t get tired of doing what’s good, and seek Him continually.
If you are in a season of singleness, remember that God is your shepherd and He led you there. The Bible says that there is a season for everything under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1). A season is defined as “a fit, or suitable time,” and that’s exactly what it is. You aren’t there as a punishment, because Jesus already purchased our salvation on the cross. You are worthy of love. But also know that He has so much more for you than where you are right now. He wants to grow you, shape you, move you. So yes, you are worthy of love, but first and foremost, you’re worthy of the best love, and that is the love of our sweet Jesus.
ALL MY SINGLE LADIES: this is precious time given to us by our Father. We can either sit around and dream about what we hope will happen, or we can put our ideas aside, fix our eyes on Christ, and discover the wonders of HIS plans for us.
The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him. –Lamentations 3:25